Why You Need To Mind Your Own Business
Why do people feel the need to make others feel like crap about the decisions they make? Do you ever find yourself filled with anxiety when thinking this way? Often times people become so preoccupied with the opinions of others that it limits their potential in any given situation. Whom people choose to associate with is their opinion and no one else’s business. Making people feel bad for their personal decisions is selfish and completely immature.
Thoughts can bounce around in our heads all day, and they won’t necessarily be helpful. Part of minding our business is figuring out which thoughts are true, useful, and important instead of being distracted by every thought that goes through our minds. “Mind your own business” is a common English saying which asks for a respect of other people’s privacy.
The solutions is to be a leader through your actions and behavior, not through lecturing or being dogmatic. If you find yourself making or about to make a gossipy remark, gently stop yourself. If you slip up in a conversation, acknowledge that your remarks were inappropriate, and change the subject. For instance, if your brother is getting a divorce, it’s not wise to try and play marriage counselor. However, offering him your comfort and company or taking care of his kids from time to time will help him out without contributing to the stress or drama of the situation. If there’s a conversation, meeting, or exclusive event to which you have not been invited, it’s best not to interrupt or intervene.
Of course, if their plan involves hurting themselves or someone else or otherwise committing a crime, you should inform the authorities. If you’re having trouble staying away from gossip, start small. Challenge yourself to not participate for a full day. If you succeed, extend the length of your next challenge until it becomes a habit rather than a challenge. For instance, if someone is spreading rumors about the sex life of your co-worker Anthony, refocus the conversation on his recent standout report or volunteer work at the local food bank.
For example, if you’re thinking about a friend’s breakup, the couple would go in the center. Their family would come next, and friends like you would come third. Seeing this visually can help you recognize that, though you’re affected, it’s still not your drama to sort out.