Mind Your Own Business, Kristy!
The best way to do this is to refocus the conversation on a big-picture issue rather than on a private one. For instance, if you’re at work, switch to discussing the business rather than a fellow employee’s personal business. Gossiping is inappropriate talk about others’ personal affairs. If you know people are gossiping or prone to gossip, the easiest solution is to keep your distance. For example, if you see two people getting into an altercation, it’s time to call the police, not to mind your own business. If a person is drunk and planning on driving, it’s fine to intervene and take their keys since they have great potential to do harm to themselves and others.
Gossip is a negative form of speculation about others. Counter it by focusing your conversations on the good things you know about a person. Don’t let yourself be drawn in by gossip or reciprocate by adding new fodder to the conversation.
Instead, it’s about knowing the right times and situations in which to intervene. Listen to music, focus on your studies and work, wear earphones when they have private conversations. Wearing ear plugs at night may be helpful if noise is an issue at night, and purchasing an eye mask can also help if lighting is a concern. Make sure to refrain from going through their stuff, as well. Do your best to be courteous and respect their privacy. Nope, only if that person asks you for advice and/or you have some kind of relevant information to help them with their plan.
They shouldn’t do that.” Your observer self might notice this and think “I’m making a judgment. Are they walking too slowly, or are they just walking at whatever pace they’re walking? I’m not the decider of how fast people should walk.” You might even notice the absurdity of your thoughts.
Incoming fire can come from any direction, at unexpected times and speeds. Morale must be considered, as well as changing instructions from the strategists in command. There is no danger of soldiers distractedly checking their Facebook pages; the issue is whether they have the mental bandwidth demanded by the exigencies of battle. Learning to mind your business can have significant personal and social payoffs by making you a happier and more likable person. Recognize that everyone has a right to privacy and that each person is in charge of their own lives. Don’t expect people to share personal information or try to exert control over how others use their time or resources.One good way of respecting boundaries is being careful not to overstep your relationship with a person.